Exploring the deep bonds between humans and their companion animals by Wistar Murray | Dec 15, 2021 | Feelings & Emotions, Mental Health Topics, Relationships For tens of thousands of years humans have been passionate about their fur babies. The deep bonds between Homo sapiens and other animal species seem so common and obvious that they’ve only recently been studied scientifically. So how did we get from throwing food scraps to wolves at the outskirts…
What does trauma bonding look like in a relationship? by Jason Crosby | Nov 10, 2021 | Mental Health Topics, Relationships, Trauma As social stigma and perceptions surrounding mental health conditions continue to change, popular usage of mental health terms is increasing as well. Of these terms, “trauma bonding” has been among the most used, researched, and debated. A form of psychological manipulation, trauma bonding occurs when someone experiences cyclical abuse from…
Romance scammers: Who they are, what they do, and how you can protect your heart and wallet by Wistar Murray | Nov 4, 2021 | Mental Health Topics, Power & Control, Relationships The sweet, charming, handsome ex-Marine you’ve been emailing and texting with for eight months has a family emergency and can’t make his flight to meet you for the first time. You’re crushed. You’d let yourself fall hard for this guy, and now it might be another few months before you…
Do meat, sex, and money count as irreconcilable differences? Workarounds for 3 heated lifestyle clashes in couples by Wistar Murray | Oct 29, 2021 | Mental Health Topics, Relationships One thing that we’ve all learned from romantic comedies is that significant others can live in harmony even when their lifestyles are radically different. For example, one SO might prefer reading on the couch to running triathlons. One SO might spring out of bed at 5am to get a headstart…
What is micro-cheating? How to recognize the signs, plus tips on how to save your relationship after infidelity by Jason Crosby | Oct 28, 2021 | Infidelity, Mental Health Topics, Relationships As the name implies, micro-cheating occurs when partners use small gestures or actions to engage with someone outside of their relationship in a flirtatious manner. Micro-cheating can happen when we cross the line with coworkers or friends, spend too much time secretly scrolling through our ex’s social media, or even…
What is financial infidelity? Strategies for talking about your spending habits with your spouse or partner by Jason Crosby | Oct 12, 2021 | Infidelity, Mental Health Topics, Money & Financial Issues, Relationships What if our partner’s financial status had been remarkably different, right from the beginning of our relationship. Would that have changed our decision about dating them? What if they’d been even poorer—or what if they’d been richer? As shallow as it sounds, money does make the world go round; and…
An extra scoop of ice cream saves my marriage: The little stuff that will make or break us by Shannon Kersey, LPA | Oct 6, 2021 | Mental Health Topics, Relationships When I first met my now-husband’s friends, we all went out to dinner. When we were eating dessert, one of the wives said, “I have known several girlfriends through the years, and he never shares his dessert with anyone. He must really like you!” I laughed, thinking she was kidding….
Advice for dating a roommate: Cohabitant hookups and the proximity principle by Wistar Murray | Oct 1, 2021 | Mental Health Topics, Relationships Dear Unlicensed Psychoblogger, My roommate is extremely attractive and I’m starting to feel an emotional connection. Would it be a humongous mistake to hook up? Sincerely, Writer’s Imaginary Friend (WIF) Dear WIF, This is a tricky question. Fortunately, I’m abundantly qualified to answer it because I’m currently raising a kindergartner…
Solo life and singlism: How much does relationship status matter? by Wistar Murray | Sep 24, 2021 | Mental Health Topics, Relationships I’m a happily partnered mom, but no one has to explain to me the benefits of being single. I’m not talking about the joys of online dating and casual sex. I’m talking about keeping your own hours, eating what you want, and TRYING TO WRITE A SENTENCE WITHOUT SOMEONE ELSE’S…
Relationship self-care: 6 tips for prioritizing yourself when you’re in a relationship by Jason Crosby | Sep 14, 2021 | Mental Health Topics, Relationships, Self-Care Self-care posts and tips often talk to us as though we’re single. But what about practicing self-care while we’re in a relationship? When we avoid prioritizing our own needs in a relationship, it can result in us feeling hurt and insecure, putting an unfair amount of pressure on our partner…
Psychological coercion, dark traits, and emotional safety in relationships by Wistar Murray | Sep 9, 2021 | Mental Health Topics, Power & Control, Relationships We’ve already shown how destructive cults and manipulative marketing tactics can weaponize extreme psychological influence. But what about a form of “mind control” that doesn’t have an industry or a social scaffolding behind it? Manipulation by an intimate partner can feel even more insidious because it’s perpetrated by someone you…
Friendship therapy: A professional can help friends improve and maintain their bond by Wistar Murray | Sep 2, 2021 | Beginning Therapy, Mental Health Topics, Relationships Oprah Winfrey and Gayle King are in their 60s now, but they first became friends in their 20s, when they were both single women in TV broadcasting. This means that for over 40 years they have stuck together through marriages, children, divorce, and career ups and downs. Their BFF status…